Episode 67: Why Children of Immigrants Are Afraid To Ask For More, with Neyda Urias

Episode 67: Why Children of Immigrants Are Afraid To Ask For More, with Neyda Urias

If you have ever struggled with negotiating your salary OR worried that leaving your employer might make you seem “disloyal” – you are probably leaving thousands of dollars on the table.

You better check your [money mindset] before you wreck your [paycheck and wealth-building opportunities]!

 
Are you a first-gen Latina or child of immigrants?
If yes, chances are that you have a hard time negotiating your salary at work and advocating for more pay.
You’re probably also afraid of “job hopping” and looking “disloyal” to your organization if you leave “too early.”
We’ve all been there…let’s say it’s time for a job offer to finally roll in.
Maybe you’re pleased with it, or maybe not. The scarcity thoughts still show up, though. They sound like this:
  • Maybe I should just accept this, because I know this is what they offered my other friend who has this same job at this same company
  • Maybe I should just accept this, because it’s already X amount higher than my last job’s salary
  • Maybe I should just accept this, because if I negotiate, I’ll look like a money-hungry evil person
  • Maybe I should just accept this, because it’s not in their budget and the recession is coming
  • Maybe I should just accept this, because it’s already an amazing offer. Am I really that greedy?
Whatever your version of “Maybe I should just accept this” is….it’s really just fear talking.
And many of us, especially children of immigrants, have a hard time with asking for more.
Sometimes it’s because we fear failure so much. We fear being told no. We fear the conflict. We fear the rejection. What is it for you?
Here’s the thing: when you DON’T negotiate, when you DON’T ask for more, you close the door on yourself. And you never find out what could have been possible for you.
Why not let someone else do that? Why close the door on yourself?
If you want to dive deeper into this topic, you got to tune into today’s episode with guest Neyda Urias. We dive into why this happens and why it’s bonkers.
Neyda (an experienced talent acquisition leader and child of immigrants from El Salvador) shares her own “wake up call” experience when she realized she needed to step it up and start advocating for her own career.
If you struggle with advocating for yourself at work, you won’t want to miss this episode!!
On this episode, we discuss:
  • The “employer loyalty” idea that many immigrant / Boomer parents subscribe to…..and how it hurts us
  • Why you’re likely leaving money on the table if you’ve been at the same organization for 2+ years
  • Common red flags in the interview process from a recruiter viewpoint (ex: speaking too negatively or positively about your ex-employer)
Follow Neyda Urias on IG and LinkedIn. Neyda also has a podcast called Livin’ La Vida de Luxury.

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67. Why Children of Immigrants are Afraid to Ask for More, with Neyda Urias

Are you a first-gen Latina or child of immigrants? If yes, chances are that you have a hard time negotiating your salary at work and advocating for more pay. You’re probably also afraid of “job hopping” and looking “disloyal” to your organization if you leave “too early.”

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Episode 66: Small Talk & Etiquette Basics for Info Chats

Episode 66: Small Talk & Etiquette Basics for Info Chats

Info chats can intimidate even the most lively extroverts, and that’s totally normal. On this episode, I share how to tackle the small talk and bring the energy for your info chat!

When you release your expectations for how this conversation “should” go, the info chat becomes more natural.

 

Today’s the LAST episode from the “everything you need to know about info chats” series.
Seriously, I have put EVERYTHING that I know into these episodes 64-66 and you’ll want to come back to these whenever you get someone to agree to meet with you.
Last week, I talked about why you should NOT “wing” the call and do the right amount of research prior to the call so that you don’t sound like an idiot.
Today, I talk about the actual call itself – how to structure it, what to say (and not say), and how to wrap up the conversation WITHOUT EXPECTATION.
For the love of espresso martinis, do not end the call asking them for another favor.
I know that a lot of people teach that you should use the last few minutes to ask them to submit a referral for you, on your behalf. But I don’t teach that.
I teach that you use the call to be curious, present, and listen actively. Build upon what they’re saying (don’t just move onto the next question). Treat this person like an old friend, and assume they want to help you.
Coming to these calls without any hidden agenda or expectations will help you show up more naturally. It won’t make you seem so self-serving. You want to exhibit an attitude of gratitude, and that ain’t gonna come through if you’re piling on the asks.
On this episode, I teach you:
  • The 3 E’s required for a successful informational chat (Enthusiasm, Engaged, Efficient)
  • How I tackle small talk as someone who doesn’t follow sports and hates talking about superficial things
  • How to structure your 30 minute call (specific questions that I ask and DON’T ask)
  • How to wrap up the conversation the RIGHT way!
So, if you want to become a pro at running info chats?
This is the podcast for you.

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66. Small Talk & Etiquette Basics for Info Chats

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Episode 65: How To Prepare for an Info Chat in 30 Minutes Or Less

Episode 65: How To Prepare for an Info Chat in 30 Minutes Or Less

Someone agreed to talk to you for an informational chat? Congrats! Now, let’s make sure that you don’t sound clueless on the call and walk away with a new advocate.

Don’t even think about winging your info chat! Here’s why….

 
So, I think we’ve all been guilty of trying “wing” calls with new people, i.e., not preparing for them whatsoever.
It seems like a good idea at the time.
“I mean, I already know how to introduce myself. I’ll just ask them a bunch of questions. That’s really the point of this right?”
WRONG!
When you “wing” an informational chat, it’s obvious to the person on the other line.
When you “wing” a call, and take it from a noisy location or while driving your car (facepalm), the person may answer your questions, but they’re annoyed that you weren’t even able to find a quiet space.
BTW – I actually did this once in my early 20’s (take a call from a noisy environment), and the person on the other phone actually hung up on me and didn’t get back to me. Ouch.
When you “wing” this call, you come across as distracted, unfocused, and a bit careless.
Remember: this person offered to spend 30 minutes of their FREE time to HELP YOU and meet with YOU.
They don’t get ANYTHING from this conversation.
And they’re not exactly catching up with a close friend, either.
Most of the time, you’re talking to someone whom you’ve never met, or haven’t talked to in a long time.
In your attempt to be “casual” and skip the preparation work, you actually risk losing this person’s respect altogether.
Instead of gaining an advocate, they walk away from the conversation thinking, “Seriously? They couldn’t even look up what our company does? What a waste.”
Don’t do that…..
The least you can do is prepare for this conversation, and give them a positive experience that they will remember. Only then will they feel compelled to HELP YOU beyond this conversation.
On this episode, I teach you:
  • Why “winging” the call is a very risky move
  • How to conduct research on your “Booster” and their current company so you don’t sound clueless
  • How to introduce yourself and frame the purpose of the call to maximize your time
Next week, I’ll cover how to actually run the actual informational chat with confidence and ease.
So, if you want to understand how to prepare for info chats so that you make an AMAZING impression and increase the odds of building an advocate for you?
This is the podcast for you.

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65. How To Prepare For A Successful Info Chat In 30 Minutes Or Less

So, someone agreed to talk to you for 30 minutes for an informational chat. Congrats!!  Now it’s time to prepare for this call so that you can a) build an authentic relationship with this person, and b) inspire them to become an advocate for YOU.

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Episode 64: Why You Can’t Skip Informational Chats During Your Job Search

Episode 64: Why You Can’t Skip Informational Chats During Your Job Search

If I had to give you just ONE tool that I view as a “magic bullet” for the job search process, it would be the informational chat. On this episode, I break down WHY.

What do you think I would do if I were laid off from my job today?

 

For one, I would NOT start applying to jobs online.
Instead, I would hit up my existing network and start sending out personalized requests for informational chats.
Why?
Because it is statistically MORE likely for someone to get their next (best) job offer through an informational chat versus an online application.
I view conducting info chats as a NON-NEGOTIABLE job search activity, especially if you enroll in my 1:1 career coaching program.
I recommend that my clients conduct outreach to 5 people on a weekly basis, assuming that only 1 out of those 5 people will respond and schedule an informational chat with them.
And that’s OK.
Because over time, that 1 person becomes 5 people, and 5 people become 10 people.
Before you know it, you’re being invited to access those people’s immediate networks. They are referring you to jobs (which is the equivalent of cutting the long line at the club).
BIN-GO! That’s what we want.
On this episode, I teach you:
  • The different reasons WHY you should do an informational chat
  • The type of people you should (and should NOT) target for your info chats
  • How to think about low response rates from info chat requests
  • How to set up your info chat when someone says YES!
So, if you want to understand the WHY behind informational chats and why I won’t shut up about them?
This is the podcast for you.

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64. Why You Can’t Skip Informational Chats During Your Job Search

Are you frustrated with your job search process? Have you been applying to countless jobs online, with little results? I would like to introduce you to your job search BFF: the informational chat. It is statistically MORE likely that you will get your next (best) job offer through an informational chat versus an online application.

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Episode 63: How To Get Ready For Your New Job, with Al Dea

Episode 63: How To Get Ready For Your New Job, with Al Dea

So, you went through ALL that trouble to finally land that new exciting job. You probably want to avoid going on ANOTHER job hunt anytime soon. So, how do you start your new job on the right foot?

With a new job, “hitting the ground running” isn’t always the best first move. 

With the average job search taking around 6 months and sometimes up to 1 year, chances are you’re not going to be keen on starting a new job search anytime soon.
And while there is no such thing as a “perfect job”, there are definitely things that are within your control that you can do to create a better onboarding and work experience for yourself.
The first 90 days on the job are usually seen as an evaluative time period on the job, as you and your new manager or team will be getting to know each other and deciding whether you each made the right choice.
That might seem a little scary, but don’t let it get to you. The company that hired you wants you to succeed. It is extremely costly for them to have to go through another job search process, and so you should always go into a new job assuming best intentions.
I always recommend that my clients take some time to reflect upon how they want to show up differently in this new job, and make sure they’re not bringing any baggage from their previous role.
What kind of employee do you want to be? What kind of boundaries do you want to set? How will your work environment be different and how will you shape it?
To get you started, tune into today’s episode. On today’s episode, Al Dea (Founder of Betterwork Labs), shares a few best practices for new employees who are starting a brand new job.
We discuss the following:
  • Why “hitting the ground running” isn’t always the best idea when starting a new job
  • Why being in listening mode can help you build trust with your new colleagues
  • Why you should identify the “weak ties” that will still impact your day to day work
  • How to have a powerful 1:1 conversation with your new manager so that you can avoid working style issues down the road

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63. How To Get Ready For Your New Job, with Al Dea

So, you went through all that trouble to get your new offer and your first day on the job is coming up.

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